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Personal grief

09 Saturday Aug 2014

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My step father died in California last night (I live in NY.) He married my mother 40 years ago. My mother died 5 years ago and he remained living in the same area as my sister and I. This spring his daughters decided it would be a good idea to move a 95 year old man across country. They didn’t move him to be near either of them (both live in different states). Before all of this came about he was active and got around well. He had his own apartment and had been playing in the same band for almost 40 years (he was a classical musician.)

I am feeling grief but probably more overwhelming right now is anger. I feel that if they had let him be with his family (us) and friends he could have lived a few more good years. It’s hard to completely know anyone else’s motivation but his daughters had ignored him most of their adult life. I’m going to stop now before I say something I might regret.